The holidays are a time for tradition. Growing up in an Irish, Catholic family we always went to midnight mass. We got to open one present Christmas Eve and the rest Christmas morning.
Mom would start cooking sometimes two days before. The house smelled of pumpkins and sage and cranberry. To this day when I smell cranberries, I see a Christmas tree in my head.
As we age, traditions become more important than ever. Doing the same thing, at the same place, at the same time, brings immense comfort to the elderly. No, it is not that they are control freaks, but they have needs that need routine. Knowing where a bathroom is or what time dinner will be is just an essential part of most seniors’ day.
When you invite your mom or grandmother to dinner, please, please remember this. So many times I hear, “We invited mom but she didn’t want to come.” Well, it is not that she didn’t want to spend time with her loved ones, it may very well be that she was not comfortable with the logistics of the day.
We have to be overly considerate when involving these loved ones.
They have lost so much, please don’t contribute to them losing the traditions that they established.